So the holiday season is upon us and yes, as usual, we moms have the brunt of the load on us. From the kids parties at school…..work parties….family get-togethers….special dinners…decorating….and on and on we are soon to be overwhelmed with a big TO DO list!! It hit me just the other day when I was making plans for the upcoming week, all that I had to do. Do you ever look at your life and think “How did I get so busy? So stressed? Why does it seem like EVERYONE else around me is having a great time while I am running around like a crazy woman just trying to keep up?? And then it hit me, I am allowing the URGENT to take precedence over the IMPORTANT things in life. Now what does that mean? Well I am going to share with you what those things were for me and how I eliminated them to bring forth a more fulfilling and less stressful life as a mom.
For the longest time I felt this need to say “yes.” Team mom? Sure! Cupcakes for the school bake sale? Of course, no problem! In charge of women’s bible study? Absolutely! Would love to! Oh and don’t forget the fact that I demanded a home cooked meal from yours truly to my family every night…..a spotless home when my husband came home..(I mean what would he think I had done all day if there were dishes in the sink?)…..Okay, do you get where I’m going with this, right?
For some reason I didn’t feel like I was enough. Because I didn’t feel like “enough” I was adding additional stress in my life and crowding my days with things that became URGENT but not always IMPORTANT. You see, as long as we as moms feel the need to “perform” then we will never have enough to give to the really important things in life. So here’s the first thing I had to learn, I am enough! And guess what mama??? YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! So learn this POWERFUL word and give yourself permission to use it….NO!! That’s right; you have the power to say no. Ask yourself this question when you are overwhelmed, “Will this be building into my life or taking away from my life?” If it’s not building into your life you need to eliminate it from your life.
I’d like to start the second thing I learned with a Proverb we have probably all heard before. The Power of Life and Death is in the tongue. What does this mean for us as moms? Let’s take a quick look at our profession of motherhood. And yes, motherhood is a profession!!
What have you been entrusted with? Husband? Children? Home? Money? (yeah, that’s always a sore spot!), time? Are we using the things we have been entrusted with wisely? Are there areas we need to work on? I am going to start by looking at the Proverb from above. Simply put we have a powerful tool in our arsenal as moms and it is the power of LANGUAGE.
Whatever we speak about today we will live out tomorrow. For a long time I used my power of language to tear down my children and my husband. And I didn’t even know that’s what I was doing! If the kids forgot to do something I had asked them to do it was “you always forget to pick up your clothes!”…..”I knew you would do that”……”you know better”….”you are getting on my nerves”. See all of these things were tearing my children down. I had to step back and take a really clear look at what I was saying and how I could change it.
Maybe you have said these same things to your kids. Here is how we can change it: Flip your attitude and Flip your words! When we change how we speak we will change the situation completely!! So how do we flip it? This works for me and I think it will work for you too!! I wrote down some typical things we say as moms and then “flipped” the words around to build instead of destroy. It goes something like this…..Instead of “I’m disappointed in you” try “I’m surprised at your behavior” or instead of “you know better” try “let me help you” and then what about instead of “you’re getting on my nerves” say “you’re helping me stretch”. A fun little thing I like to say in our family is “the words we say today are gonna come into play.” So what do you want your tomorrow to be like? Let’s learn as moms to first say that two letter word “NO” and then let’s use our language and flip or words so they build instead of destroy.
I am hoping you are able to relate to this and are able to use it to make your life right NOW your dream life!! And to make this holiday season a little less stressed and a lot more blessed!! Next month we are going to finish up with a few more ways to stress LESS this holiday season and beyond. Got chores that need organizing? A home you are ready to make your haven? You will want to read on next month to find out how!!
I want to leave you with this: YOU ARE ENOUGH MAMA!! YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH, SMART ENOUGH AND CREATIVE ENOUGH to rise to every challenge and to overcome every obstacle and to create the life you were born to live!!!!!
Looking forward to hearing from you,